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Uhm, confuse?
Last night was the weirdest night I ever had. Okay, maybe not the most, but surely one of those weird nights. That makes me barely can sleep well. I kept thinking, wondering and tried to understand what had happened. In the end, I still could not really get the idea of all things had happened.
So it started when I got a call phone from new quality manager in our office last evening. He asked if I could accompany him to find a rented room around Cikarang since he lived outside Cikarang and it's tiring for him to go to work and back home every day (He lived at Bogor which is about 2 hours from my office).
Strange fact no 1
First of all, I almost never speak to him unless we're in the same meeting. And suddenly he asked me to accompany him find a rented room? Hmm....
But since I think helping another employee was not a bad thing, I agreed to help him. We went to Meadow Green, this housing complex where my rented room located. After two houses, he asked me to eat somewhere around there since he was hungry. So we ate at one and the only mall in Lippo Cikarang, and we chatted for about an hour. He told me a bit about himself and about things he loved to do to refresh his mind. He loved to go to some place cold, like mountains or hills. There's a place here called Puncak which is quite nice, and he loves to go there.
And suddenly he offers me to go there with him some day.
Strange fact no 2
I only know him for a month!!! And as I said before, I almost never speak to him. And now he asked me to go to Puncak?? Just both of us??
I said to him that the idea sounded nice, but to be honest, the thought of going there just two of us makes me uncomfortable and would think about it. He seemed okay with my statement. But somehow, when we started to talk about other things, he brought back the previous conversation about the trip plan. The MOST weird thing about the continued conversation was that, he assumed that, in the worst case could happen, wewould apparently must would use ONE room together.
O_____________O
Sure, he said calmly (and maybe tried to make me calm, which I did actually, because I was so shocked and speechless) that we are adults, we went there just for refreshing, and of course, none of us thought of something with being in ONE room.
BUT STILL...
He is A GUY, and I am A WOMAN. How can he expect that we'll be okay being in the same room, while in reality I just know him for a month?
I was really shocked that I could not say anything. He then asked me to think about it and went home.
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I really can't think anything about this thing. Anyone can help?
So it started when I got a call phone from new quality manager in our office last evening. He asked if I could accompany him to find a rented room around Cikarang since he lived outside Cikarang and it's tiring for him to go to work and back home every day (He lived at Bogor which is about 2 hours from my office).
Strange fact no 1
First of all, I almost never speak to him unless we're in the same meeting. And suddenly he asked me to accompany him find a rented room? Hmm....
But since I think helping another employee was not a bad thing, I agreed to help him. We went to Meadow Green, this housing complex where my rented room located. After two houses, he asked me to eat somewhere around there since he was hungry. So we ate at one and the only mall in Lippo Cikarang, and we chatted for about an hour. He told me a bit about himself and about things he loved to do to refresh his mind. He loved to go to some place cold, like mountains or hills. There's a place here called Puncak which is quite nice, and he loves to go there.
And suddenly he offers me to go there with him some day.
Strange fact no 2
I only know him for a month!!! And as I said before, I almost never speak to him. And now he asked me to go to Puncak?? Just both of us??
I said to him that the idea sounded nice, but to be honest, the thought of going there just two of us makes me uncomfortable and would think about it. He seemed okay with my statement. But somehow, when we started to talk about other things, he brought back the previous conversation about the trip plan. The MOST weird thing about the continued conversation was that, he assumed that, in the worst case could happen, we
O_____________O
Sure, he said calmly (and maybe tried to make me calm, which I did actually, because I was so shocked and speechless) that we are adults, we went there just for refreshing, and of course, none of us thought of something with being in ONE room.
BUT STILL...
He is A GUY, and I am A WOMAN. How can he expect that we'll be okay being in the same room, while in reality I just know him for a month?
I was really shocked that I could not say anything. He then asked me to think about it and went home.
-__________________-;;
I really can't think anything about this thing. Anyone can help?
so, here are my thoughts (maybe they sound stupid... v_v):
it might be that he just got interested in you and 'watched' you from the distance without having actually contact with you. so, yesterday he decided to be 'brave' and ask you out.
even though it's still strange, as you both don't know each other for too long. but at least this assumption with him being interested in you might be plausible... o__O
about that guy/woman sleeping in one room... in germany that actually would be okay with many people (not all!), but I guess for you it's just somethin very unexpected. this shouldn't sound insulting, you know? ó__ò maybe he is open minded OR keen. I don't really know... maybe he is one of those persons who don't have ulterior motives or just plays so. I can't really tell...
but, as you feel totally not comfortable with all this stuff going on, I would say, you should neglect him... it's just too strange, that he, out of the blue, approaches you. maybe he just fell in love, I can't tell xD;;;
ahh, it's really confusing. and I guess my comment increased the confusment. gomen Q____Q
maybe you can think about it more clearly tomorrow...
*huuuuuuugs* <333
Your comments are not confusing at all! I got it all at once!
It would be too cocky to say that he's interested on me, but I must admit that it's possible~ xD
Maybe because I'm a way too long being single that I have no preparation to deal with something like this.. -______-;;
About sleeping in one room.. what makes me a bit scared is because there will be only two of us. If there'll be more than two of us, I would not mind (maybe..). Since I barely know him, somehow something inside me keep alert me and told me to rethink about it. I had a stomachache everytime I'm thinking about it..
But then again, as you said, maybe he's just a very easy going person without any motives. Too bad I can't really figure it out too right now..
I'm thinking about refuse his offer...but still confuse how to say it. any idea? o____O;;
sharing a room with a person I bearly know would also give me headaches. you just don't know him well enough to know about his motives. he can be absolutely nice or not... x___x
I think you have two options. you might (!) go on a short trip with him and insist on returning by a certain time which allows both of you to sleep at one's own home. I actually have no clue how long this trip might take...
maybe he really just wants to be nice and spend some time with you. if you are willing to do so (it might be fun...) you just have to make clear that you are absolutely not okay with that sleeping thing. I understand that. you don't know him too well and stuff.. I guess he would understand it as well.
the other option would be to turn him down ´___`
you could it say in a friendly way like "thanks for the offer, but actually I don't feel too comfortable with the thought of both of us going on a trip. it might have been a nice gesture but it's a little too fast for me."
and then you might add something like having lunch or some coffee together.
I never asked what you think about him?! or do you just know him too less to tell?
@_______@;;;;
Taking option 1 could be really fun, I agree. Plus, I've never really go to the place he asked me go with (everyone said it's a beautiful place). Going there could be a new experience for me (I'm truly a home-person, yes). It's only about that sleeping thing, which in some ways, freaking me out.
Option 2 sounds a lot nicer, and for me, will comfort me more. But of course, the sense of adventure is absolutely zero. It's like, a very conventional way of two people knowing each other.
And why I still confuse about choosing the option?? o__O;;
I don't really know him, to be honest. My longest conversation with him was yesterday, and I must admit, his characteristic different from I thought when I first met him.
As we talked, he seems like a nice person; maybe a risk taker, he just does what he wants to do. During his work, he really dedicated and serious handling it; so I was a bit surprised that in reality, he's not that stiff in doing things.
I think you know which option I probably take.. xD;;
I guess it's hard to overcome oneself when it comes to events. even I have to be convinced very long until I finally join an event- which always will be quite fun.
what I want to say is that you maybe should take the chance .-. just to have some great experiences and escape work and all your duties. didn't you write about your work exhausting you? this could be a great chance to gain new energy...
well, it's easy said, I know that. the last decision can only be made by you :O though I know to wich opition you tend xD;;
I'd say you still have some time left to overthink it. but if you choose opition 2 it also would be okay. though it would help to overcome your "problems" (bad word >_<) with men/dating and the like.
don't push yourself too far :3
*hugs* <3
Thanks for your concern!!!
Several days have passed, and he hasn't spoken to me about it, so I guess I'll wait until he start it~ xD;;
I know option 1 will offer more experience, but as I said earlier, I'm more into a traditional type due to this man-woman relationship.. o____O;;
Option 2 will make me more comfortable.. X3
Let's see what'll happen next. But somehow I think he won't dare to step any further.. xD;;